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By: Janet Clarey

Janet Clarey — Wed, 23 Jan 2008 19:05:50 +0000

Pam & Joan…always great to get advice from parents that has been there.

It would be easier to play supervisor and just give out performance reviews to my kids (and husband ; )
but what the heck would mine look like? I’m afraid…especially with running for ‘not mother of the year.’

I guess if I can show them how to care and how to try (& fail), I’ll at least give them some life skills.

By: Janet Clarey

Janet Clarey — Wed, 23 Jan 2008 19:05:00 +0000

Pam & Joan…always great to get advice from parents that has been there.

I guess if I can show them how to care and how to try (& fail), I’ll at least give them some life skills.

By: Janet Clarey

Janet Clarey — Wed, 23 Jan 2008 19:01:43 +0000

Dave…very thoughtful. Thanks.

By: Janet Clarey

Janet Clarey — Wed, 23 Jan 2008 19:01:00 +0000

Dave…very thoughtful. Thanks.

By: Joan Vinall-Cox

Joan Vinall-Cox — Tue, 22 Jan 2008 22:11:43 +0000

Having watched a child do what she decided to do (or not do) around school assignments, I have to suggest that you have much more power as a supervisor at work.

By: Joan Vinall-Cox

Joan Vinall-Cox — Tue, 22 Jan 2008 22:11:00 +0000

Having watched a child do what she decided to do (or not do) around school assignments, I have to suggest that you have much more power as a supervisor at work.

By: pam

pam — Tue, 22 Jan 2008 19:28:35 +0000

Janet – I ask my teens two things – do you care?
did you try your best?
If they can honestly answer yes to both, I try not to worry about their grades too much.
One daughter has hovered at (but above) the failing mark in required subjects for years. Always managing to pull a passing score out of a hat at the end of the semester.
The other daughter stayed on honor roll through high school, then partied or whatevered so much in college that they asked her not to come back…
Each one will do what they will do – after all, it’s their will not ours!

By: pam

pam — Tue, 22 Jan 2008 19:28:00 +0000

By: Dave Ferguson

Dave Ferguson — Tue, 22 Jan 2008 17:40:03 +0000

Janet,

Maybe the high-schooler’s PostIt could say two things:

Good judgment comes from experience.
Experience comes from bad judgment.

And

Not all the experience has to be your own.